I want to assure you today that there is hope.
Lets face it. No one gets married thinking that they will be bored, annoyed, frustrated, and growing apart from their partner. Everyone chooses to get married because they want to experience companionship and closeness and that together forever feeling.
That relationship where Someone got you. Someone knows what you need without asking, who can make you feel like all the worries in the world were dwarfed by the size of your love. Someone who understood you intuitively. Someone you belonged with.
No you weren’t naive. You knew that relationships take work and you were prepared to make the effort. You knew that the way you gave and expressed love might change over time, but you didn’t expect it to change quite so much…
You’ve been allowing your troubles to dictate your life for too long now. You’ve been avoiding your friends and family and you don’t trust your partner to fulfill your needs anymore.
Guess what, you are not alone and it’s not your fault. I know because I see couples every single week who think they are broken because they couldn’t make their marriage work they want they thought it should. No one talks about this right, we have such a warped public perception of what a healthy vibrant relationship is supposed to be.
We never know what’s actually going on behind closed doors in any marriage. So many couples sleeping in separate bedrooms, fighting in front of their children; living without intimacy. And so many couples aren’t getting help. They just continue slogging through the bitter cycle of disconnection and resentment. There is a better way.
“Our communication has improved since working with Anna.”
“We can now recognize negative cycles and talk about them without it turning into a huge fight.”
“Anna helped me see that I can trust him with my feelings and not be afraid to get hurt.”
“Things are just better. There is a lot less tension and more connection in our relationship.”
“Our trust is back.”